Today is our Princess Ashley's 100th day anniversary.This poem reminds us that she's contantly in our midst.
Do not stand at my grave and weep.
I am not there; I do not sleep.
I am a thousand winds that blow;
I am the diamond glints on snow.
I am the sunlight on ripened grain;
I am the gentle autumn's rain.
Do not stand at my grave and mourn.
I am the dew-flecked grass at dawn.
Where tranquil oceans meet the land
I am the footprints in the sand
To guide you through the weary day.
I am still here; I'll always stay.
When you wake up to morning's hush
I am the swift uplifting rush
Of quiet birds in circled flight.
I am the stars that shine at night.
Do not stand at my grave and cry.
I am not there; I did not die.
© Mary Elizabeth Frye (1904).
Ashley, if tears could build a stairway and memories build a lane, we'll walk right up to heaven to bring you back again. Mummy and Daddy miss you so much baby...
24 comments:
I'm sorry for your lost.. no matter what, always remember.. GOD loves them even more... which is why HE took them back to be with HIM.. Be Strong.. Stay Strong.. They will never want to see you cry..
Hello, Angie and David. Someone in Singapore passed me the URL to your blog. I read through it with tears running down my cheeks, and yet I have never met you.
I wanted to say I'm very sorry for all that you've been through, and for all that you've lost. I'm not religious by any means, so kudos to you for having something that is able to sustain your strength to get through it. Whatever it takes to get past the heartache..
We lost a baby 3 years ago (although at an very early stage, the hurt is still tremendous especially considering he/she was a much wanted baby) and I started to blog to get rid of some of the pain. This is
my first post, ironically, the trip that I mentioned in the post was to Malaysia transiting Singapore. The poem still brings me to tears now.
I imagine your sorrow and pain is so much more than ours. Do what you have to, take however long you need to, to mourn the loss of your babies, especially Ashley. In the meantime, don't forget to love and take care of each other.
When I had cancer 7 years ago at age 24, it took a long time to heal me emotionally. The physical healing was easy -- one year of chemotherapy and radiation -- it was the emotional aspect that really kicked me down. So I sort of understand that the psyche needs a lot of love and time to heal, and for me, a lot of times the hurt/pain came in waves. Do take good care..
Again, I wanted to send my love to you two. You are two of the best parents any child can ask for, and I sincerely wish you will one day hold a healthy happy baby in your arms, bring him/her to preschool, to dance and music lessons, to summer camps, sing Christmas carols, etc etc.
Angie and David, may your world be filled with sunshine and laughter again soon.
Love sent from the US.
Hi,
I found your blog by accident and I cried and cried when I read the posts. I am not a mother, but I feel your loss keenly. I really felt heartbroken.
I am praying for our Heavenly Father to watch over you and heal you. Somehow, I believe your children are happy in the Home we will all return to someday. And I am sure they look forward to be reunited with you too. Meantime, may His peace be with you, and may His presence comfort you.
Agape,
Sister-in-Christ
Dear David & Angie,
Hope both of you will be encouraged by this beautiful poem.
Whatever your cross,
whatever your pain,
there will always be sunshine,
after the rain ....
Perhaps you may stumble,
perhaps even fall,
But God's always ready,
To answer your call ...
He knows every heartache,
sees every tear,
A word from His lips,
can calm every fear ...
Your sorrows may linger,
throughout the night,
But suddenly vanish,
in dawn's early light ...
The Savior is waiting,
somewhere above,
To give you His grace,
and send you His love...
Whatever your cross,
whatever your pain,
"God always sends rainbows ....
after the rain ... "
Love,
Uncle David & Aunt Sarah
Dear David and Angie,
I got your URL from a forum and I just wanna say I feel very sorry for both of you to suffer such grief 3 times...Both of u are really strong and I hope that both of you will be able to walk out of the grief soon though I know it will be impossible...I just become a mother for 2 mths plu so I can empathise with what both of u are going thru...
Be strong!
Dear David and Angie,
I have just sent you an email with my work email account, to your email address from the Worldisround website. I am hoping that it is a current address as the site looks like the last time it was updated was 2 years ago. I will be checking this blog regularly and if you no longer use this email address, if you could please let me know through the blog, and I'll find a way of communicating with you what I sent in the email?
Kind regards
Michelle
Dearest Angie and David,
Read your blog and really feel sad and sorry about your loss. I have also lost a baby( about 8 wks) and both hb and I just cried and grieve.
No amount of words can describe the pain and hurt in your heart, but our Heavenly Father has kept each of your tear in a bottle and He is walking through this valley of shadow with you.
Remember that during this time of grieve, David needs you and you need him. Praying for you that you will continue to draw strength from the Lord. *Hugs*
Dear David and Angie,
got to your blog from a link in a forum. also read about you guys in the papers.
i really don't know what to say, because currently i'm at a loss for words when i read about how much the both of you have been through within the short span of 3 years.
i know that i'll never be able to fully understand as i won't know how things are like unless i had some form of personal similar experience.
my prayers are with you guys to just continue holding up in faith and strength in the Lord. we may not be able to fathom why He does the things He does sometimes but i believe that everything in His will teaches us something and that we can emerge stronger.
i also believe the both of you would be wonderful parents given the chance, any kid would be blessed to receive your love and care!
God Bless You
Sorry for ur lost. I admired ur courage to pull through the ordeals. I knew wat it felt to lost ur babies. I lost my first baby at 6 weeks and a year later i found out that i was preggie again but it's an ectopic pregnancy and had to have my right tube removed. At dat moment, i felt that God is really unfair and i really can't pull myself through it. Now eventhough it had been about 2 years since, i can't get over the fact dat my chances of conceiving is lowered. After reading ur post, with tears running down my cheeks, i realised that what both of you went through are much more painful than what i went through. Watever it is, just remember that ur angels is out there look after you.
My dearest Brother n Sister In Christ... I gt ur URL through a forum in SGmummy. I read through all your blog entries.. I sincerely feel sorry abt bb Ashley. But however, u as parents muz stand strong. Confide in ur God, Our Lord. Do not lose hope, as all these are things tat he puts us through. Bb Ashley doesnt wan to c her mummy n daddy to cry. Every tear u cry will prick her heart mre. B brave my dear. God has a greater plan! Stay strong in faith. I believe tat u all can make it! *hugs*
David and Angie, I happen to chance by your site. i'm so sorry for your loss. i had 2 miscarriages before and can feel your grieve as i read through your entries. i was reminded of a lovely song, and may the lyrics of the song below minister to you.
Bow The Knee
There are moments on our journey following the Lord
where God illumines every step we take
There are times when circumstances make perfect sense to us
as we try to understand each move He makes
When the path grows dim
and our questions have no answers turn to him
Chorus
Bow the Knee
Trust the heart of your father
When the answer goes beyond what you can see
Bow the Knee
lift your eyes towards Heaven
and believe the One who holds eternity
and when you don't understand, the purpose of his plan
in the presence of the king Bow the Knee
Verse 2
There are days when clouds surround us and the rain begins to fall
the cold and lonely winds wont cease to blow
And there seems to be no reason for the suffering we feel
We are tempted to believe God does not know
when the storms arise, don't forget we live by faith and not by sight
Chorus
Bow the Knee
Trust the heart of your father
When the answer goes beyond what you can see
Bow the Knee
lift your eyes towards Heaven
and believe the One who holds eternity
and when you don't understand, the purpose of his plan
in the presence of the king Bow the Knee
last but not least, "And we know that in all things God works for the good of those who love Him, who has been called according to his purpose" - Rom 8:28. may you be encouraged by this verse.
Dear Angie & David,
You do not know me, and I am generally not the type of person who leaves messages for total strangers. But I was moved to to do so in this case.
I first learned of your story through a newpaper article some weeks ago. I could not stop crying, I wondered if I were feeling this way, how much more intense and painful this must be for you. Totally unimaginable.
I just wanted you to know that I am so sorry for what you have had to go through. Nobody should have to bear the loss of not one, not two but three children.
You both deserve to be happy, you are so overdue. Please know that so many people out there like me wish you the best and hope that with time, you will be able to smile and really mean it.
With much love, Sara
Dear David & Angie,
We have read your story on the newspaper and my wife spent a few weeks searching the internet to see if she could find your blog and she has finally found it today...
We fully felt what Angie and you have gone through as we have gone through the loss of our baby daughter, Dorothy, on the 31st July 2007.
We had to make a very, very tough decision to let our baby Dorothy go as she has multiple organs mulfunctioning and my wife's fluid is too low to sustain her in the womb. She might not be able to live till her due date.
We couldn't stop crying after reading your story in the newspaper and my wife felt that she needs to hunt for your blog so that we can share our feelings and sympathies with you guys too.
As I am typing this with my wife beside me, we couldn't help but tears were flowing down our cheeks.
Angie & David, your kids are in heaven now and in safe hands... They are blessing you from above and may your world be filled with sunshine and happiness again...
God bless your family..
Love,
Ming and Vincent
both my sisters linked up your blog but i didnt know what it was about, so i took a look.
pls stay strong, i'm so sorry for your lost.
i dont know what to say or what r the right words. perhaps, there's no need for any.. but do know that i was here and i knew about Baby Ashley.
God bless you. Be strong for each other
Dear David & Angie
I'm crying as I'm reading your blog. It has touched me very much. I read your story in the papers and searched for your blog and ended up here.
I can feel your pain all the way. It must have been very tough for the both of you.
Do stay strong and God Bless ....
Wendy from KL
Even though I'm not a Christian, i pray and hope that your God will give you one healthy child of your own. A child who both of you can bring up happily. A child who represents your other three children. A loveliest child. Be strong. I know it's difficult to be after losing 3 children. But I know, that after this, the God will reward you with another child. A healthy one this one. One who both of you can bring him/her up on your own. Don't give up!
i'm so sorry to hear of your loss. Although a complete stranger to you, i just want you to know i grief with you too. It took us 6 long years, countless of fertility treatments, 1 near-death experience due to complications before we had our baby.Like you, we questioned God (actually i didn't want to talk to God for a while). When i was in hospital for yet another failed fertility treatment, i met another going in for an abortion. It took lots of will power not to leap up and slap the face of the young girl. But in God's grace and time, just when we started looking into adoption, God gave us a beautiful baby girl. God will make all things beautiful in His time. Our thoughts and prayers are with you.
Dear David and Angeline
I struggled to hold back my tears as I read through your blog. I know that no words will be able to describe the pain and sense of desolation you feel.
I nearly lost my newborn as well a couple of years ago, and understand how you feel. Take comfort that we will never be able to understand the plan God has in store for each of us. I know you love your children so very very much, but God loves them even more. We will only understand when all these come to past and we meet Him in person when the day comes. My prayers are with you both. I admire the both of you for your belief in God. We are all humans and though I know you struggle to make sense of what happened, take heart that many are lifting the both of you and your loved ones in prayer.
I would like to share with you this poem and hope that whatever you are going through will be comforted by trust in the Lord, and knowing that your three angels are waiting for you when the time comes.
DEAR DAD AND MOM
When I'm gone, release me, let me go;
I have so many things to see and do.
Don't tie yourself to me with tears.
Go on with life, free from fears.
You gave me love.
You can only guess how much that
You gave me in happiness.
I thank you for your love you each have shown.
But it is time I travel alone.
So grieve a while for me, grieve you must;
Then let your grief be comfort by trust.
It's only for a little while we must part.
So bless the memories within your heart.
I won't be far away, for life goes on.
So if you need me, call and I'll come.
Though you can't see or touch me, I'll be near.
If you listen with your heart, you'll hear
All my love around you soft and clear.
And then when you must come this way alone,
I will greet you with a smile and a "WELCOME HOME."
Dear Ashley, I hope you see how much Mummy and Daddy love you and really appreciate it wherever you are. I am sure you are now safe in God's hand, sitting on his lap and bragging to the other people in heaven how much love you've gotten from your parents.
Hello David and Angie, Sometimes, things happen for a reason, however bad they are, there are reasons behind this. Nevertheless D&A, I am envious of Ashley because she has got such unconditional love that teenagers like us would long so much for our whole life.
May God bless your family always =)
Dear Ms. Sim,
I'm so sorry to hear what had happened to your beloved babies.
May they rest in peace in heaven.Please do take care of yourselves. As Morrie says, "Death ends a life but not a relationship". She must be able to see you and hear from you somewhere, somehow. May God bless you and your family always!
With Love,
Froggy
hi be strong... God will forever be with you and most important they are smiling from heaven to you both and hope to wish that both of u, as their parents remember them and live till your fullness for them.
Hi,
Im a teenage mummy.
And i know i aint a good mummy cus i always love to be outside with ym friends.
But after reading your blog, i felt that i really need to change.
Pls stay strong. ^^
God bless.
-michlyn
Just come across your page after losing someone yesterday, words can't describe how i feel after reading what you've been through. Please stay strong and i know you will all be together again.
x
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